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How to Get Vulnerable when you want to be happy and you don’t know how

To Discover More Connection, Creativity and Innovation In Your Life

My friend Patrick texted me I want to be free.

My question back was “free from what?”

“Free from the burden of my thoughts stealing my joy”.

I asked back, “what does joy mean to you”.

He got quiet. He wasn’t sure.

The answer never needed memorizing for a test at school. To create the life you want rather than default to the future in front of you made him curious.

Patrick had never considered that level of responsibility. The ability to design the way he wanted to feel. He wasn’t sure how.

This is why I am writing this for you and Patrick.

What part of your life do you feel joyful and enthusiastic about what’s coming next? Why do you believe this to be true?

Do you want to investigate how to have more delight and fulfilling shareable moments? This can happen. This begins with a decision.

Staying stuck in a rut of how you approach your life is not freedom. Freedom and creativity are the first ingredients to add to a life full of prosperity.

Let go of your measuring stick. This is not about performance. This is about feeling moved by the possibility that you can make a difference to the lives you touch.

Here’s how. Write down two things that made you happy today. Share your experience with another person. Ask them two things that made them happy.

This changes your focus from your problems to possibilities.

Then in the middle of the day when frustration or boredom sets in, remember what made you happy.

Stick with that for one week and keep track of your findings.

Record them in a new journal you picked out. This will show your creative genius breakthroughs. The feeling of freedom will be real.

In a nutshell often you do not live your life on purpose. You live in a narrow bandwidth of what you learn and see everyday.

Making a commitment to step outside of your normal choices will feel uncomfortable. This is a necessary part of change.

To do something different with your life on purpose leads to a deeper calling.

Why are deeper callings necessary in life?

They need learning and growing in ways you haven’t since you were in kindergarten. They depend on play. What could make you want to stand up and dance and shout out loud that your life is spectacular?

Exercise number two, write the answer in your new journal every day.

This leads to exercise number three. For the same week that you note each day two things that make you happy, also notice when you feel joy. This is important. Joy is a by-product of focusing on what makes you happy.

Joy is a deeper level and is natural to who you are.

Somewhere along the path you lost your joy.

In 2020 my intention is to help you take the journey to feeling more inner peace, creativity and joy like a child.

This is freedom.

See you experienced being vulnerable and it didn’t even hurt.

I Coach 4 Prosperity. If you want more freedom, love and creativity in your life connect with me at

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