Books are one of the things I love. I am fascinated when they shift my paradigm from the status quo.
In the book Deviate, The Science of Seeing Differently, author Beau Lotto explains human beings are really their accumulated assumptions.
Life doesn’t happen in real time. It runs from assumptions made in the past.
Many decisions about how life works happen through events in childhood. Without knowing, these hardened decisions make up our perceived reality.
This is why human minds are consumed with past thoughts and emotions.
You Have To Let Go Of Worn Out Ways Of Thinking
The human brain is programmed to seek security for the self, the “me”. Seeking physical security has allowed humans to live longer. But, the desire for psychological safety of the “me” is crushing them. They hold onto the past.
“The brain never perceives reality it perceives what was most useful for security in past perceptions.”
For human beings to move forward in their lives they must be willing to let go of worn out ways of thinking.
This opens up possibilities for them to see and create the future in new ways.
This can be a difficult ask for many. Often human beings notice they are stuck in damaging thoughts and mindsets. They are still hard to give up because they are comfortable. This is especially true if they have found success in life.
It’s like a fish in a fish bowl. They are unaware of the short supply of water (assumptions) sucking the life out of them. They mistake the defined boundaries of the bowl for their entire world.
Or put poetically from the Pink Floyd song, “Wish You Were Here”
“Swimming in a fish bowl, year after year. Running over the same old ground. What have we found?”
Human beings may not realize that certain behaviors have confined them from what they really want in life.
Love and connection.
Push Past Your Fears And Confront Reality
Even if they were to see these stifling assumptions holding them back, they may not change. To open up to a new frontier of emotions and way of seeing life is powerful. This can evoke panic.
A human being may not want to risk seeing beyond tightly held beliefs. They may struggle to find the courage. Their fears can appear insurmountable.
Even when the rawness of life is thrust upon them, they still are unable to push themselves to see from a new perspective…. they haven’t seen the science of how the brain sees from past assumptions and how this can change.
Human beings value psychological security of the “me” at all costs.
For me, it is like the art of throwing snowballs. Your bare hands get icy and wet. Pink, frozen, painful. Yet, after a while they thaw. This is the feeling I get when I move beyond my fixed assumptions and the need to feel secure.
When the ice melts, I can feel what really lives in my heart.
This is easier said than done. Even if I plan to not wait for a crisis to force me into a new direction, it still happens. Reluctantly, I go kicking and screaming. Then like a bolt of lightening, something I see gives me an ‘aha’ moment.
I have learned with a little sweat and GRIT, I can let the resistance in this process go earlier and earlier. It’s like a dripping icicle followed by a waterfall.
Courage And Vulnerability Are The Path To Freedom
Then courage and vulnerability take over propelling me down a new path.
The practice of vulnerability and being open-minded is not stealth. It is messy. It is risky. It will test a human being’s resilience. It brings freedom.
Simply the idea of living with a little uncertainty can make your mind get all sideways and confused.
My stomach has turned south and I have wanted to run for the hills in the midst of it. Sometimes you need to retreat. For ten seconds or ten days.
Whatever it takes to recover your guts and the vulnerability warrior within.
There are no absolutes of how things may turn out. When the past is reframed and exposes unknown territory of the heart. These are very human events.
Yet to risk being human when I usually escape in fear and anger, have been some of the most humbling and beautiful experiences of my life.
This is what it means to love life and trump fear.
In challenging my fixed assumptions, I have realized a new depth of freedom.
“Questioning our assumptions is what provokes revolutions, be they tiny or vast, technological or social”.
Go on, you can do it! Try a little vulnerability on for style. Give what the brain usually sees a run for it’s money!
Let me know in the comment section how it works out!