Elizabeth, thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for what you have lost.
I get what you say about gratitude. It can cover up anger for only so long.
“And on this day in this house no gratitude was shared, the word “thankful” was not even murmured. But presence, appreciation and awareness were felt. And love, we had that too”.
Kids are an incredible blessing. Yes they are work. But what we often fail to recognize is that they are creative geniuses. They give with their whole hearts.
I have two that have graduated college and two in high school. I felt these kids were creative geniuses their whole life. Only now have I started telling them. They love it!