Charlie, I agree, “I think many of us hustle from a posture of guilt, rather than hope and vision.
We hustle because we fear what other people think about us or we see ourselves as way behind the rest of the world”.
I sat with a woman who is dying last night. She was at the same basketball game as I was. I have known her for many years. Sitting with someone like this is excruciatingly painful. My mind kept telling me, breathe and listen to her. Be with her.
Let her share her stories of her family. Let her know how much joy her and her family she’s raised has meant to the community and my own family.
She shared the trip her and her husband had taken in October to Florida. She thought maybe they may do that again in February. She didn’t want to make plans yet……..
I saw the deep sadness in her. She showed me a picture of her daughter now with her 18 month son and her husband. She opened up and shared a picture of the 11 1/2 year daughter her daughter had given up for adoption. Then she showed my a picture of the mom that adopted the daughter, her daughter that gave her away and the beautiful eleven year old girl all together.
I have treasured Deanna and her energy for life from afar. I had at times shared stories about her kids. I had never really sat with her to know what was going on in her heart.
Why does it take impending death to see the love and connection that is possible in human life?
The famous Steve Jobs, commencement address at Stanford University in 2005 says it like it is. “Because almost everything-all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure-these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
BE naked of human thoughts that propel us to hustle no matter what.