Benjamin, this statement of yours makes it pretty clear,
“Perfectionism isn’t about you. It’s about an unhealthy need for approval. It’s about a fear of failure and looking incompetent. It’s the opposite of courage. And it’s the opposite of mastery”.
If what you say is true, then WHY does our K-12 education system demand A’s to be a top notch human being??? What is society creating by having grades be the ultimate focus and measurement of young learners?
How does this lead to anxiety, depression, fear and lack of mastery at anything.
Why do you have to make it to Yale Law school before you have finally proven yourself and no longer have to earn grades to show it.
I suppose grades are a necessary evil. But how about shining awareness on what it means to be curious in life. And other deeper thoughts of ways to look at life. Rather than compete to get ahead at all costs.
Maybe always looking to be more isn’t all it is cracked up to be. Maybe it is vitally important how kind we are to other human beings. How we believe in them and not a constant focus on how we get our own individual needs met.
Because, right now that’s what our society and system of grading gets you. A focus on individual self and having the best life for YOU personally.